Romans 12:18 -- If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably
with all men. .
God's word tells us that second only to loving
God, we are to love each other. So, it stands to reason that first loving
God and then loving each other is what is at the foundation of living
peaceably with family, and not just emotionally, but in our actions. The
commandment to love is a verb, an action.
"And whatsoever ye
do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the
Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord
Christ." -- Colossians 3:23-24
word tells us to do all things unto Him and to seek to please Him,
not man, not even family. And His word says that we are to take all our cares to God
and to pray without ceasing.
“Pray without ceasing,” Paul
said; “Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks: for this is
the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. Quench not the
Spirit," (1 Thes. 5:17–19.)
If family members were living this way,
walking this way, would there ever be any family estrangements? Could you
imagine how it would be if we all took everything to God in
Imagine if we told God how we are treating a family member.
I've done this. I had a situation a few weeks back, where I went
overboard with my mouth, when upset with my husband. The next
day, I was talking to God about it. It went something like this, "Lord, I
think I may have... I went too far and need to say sorry to Tim." I could
not even get the words out, words that made me not sound so wrong. The
conviction got me, mid-sentence. Mid-sentence my words
If you want to do your
part in keeping things right or making things right with a family member,
then talk to God. Talk to Him about what you have done and or are planning
to do. If you need changing, He will change you. Now, you can only suggest
the other person do the same. And if that person is not willing to, there
is nothing you can do about that.
We do need
to realize that the scripture says, if it be possible. It will not always
be possible, like if the other person does not want to be at peace.
But then for our own peace, we should do what we need to do to let go
of the situation and turn it all over to God and then go on