Living Peaceably With Family
                                                         How can it be done?

Romans 12:18 -- If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. 

God's word tells us that second only to loving God, we are to love each other. So, it stands to reason that loving each other is what is at the foundation of living peaceably with family, and not just emotionally, but in our actions. The commandment to love, is a verb, an action. 

God's word tells us to do all things unto Him and to seek to please Him, not man, not even family
. And His word says that we are to take all our cares to God and to pray without ceasing.

“Pray without ceasing,” Paul said; “Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. Quench not the Spirit," (1 Thes. 5:17–19.)

So, I ask you, if family members were living this way, walking this way, would there ever be any family estrangements? Could you imagine how it would be if we all took everything to God in prayer?

Imagine if we told God how we are treating a family member. I've done this. I had a situation a few weeks back, where I went overboard with my mouth, when upset with my husband. The next day, I was talking to God about it. It went something like this. "Lord, I think I may have... I went too far and need to say sorry to Tim." I could not even get the words out, words that made me not sound so wrong. The conviction got me, mid-sentence. Midsentence my words changed.

If you want to do your part in keeping things right or making things right with family, then talk to God about it all. Talk to Him about what you are and or have done and or are planning to do. If you need changing, He will change you. Now, you can only suggest the other person do the same. And if that person is not willing to, then there is nothing you can do about that. But at least you will have a clear conscience and know that you are in a right place, should that other person ever want to do the same.

And I believe that when a family member is not willing to work things out and an estrangement takes place, in-part or fully, that even in that, we can find peace with that person in our own heart, by turning to God about everything, and mostly our ways towards that person. We can still love that person in our actions, by not ripping that person apart, by not hating that person, by thinking fondly of that person and by truly praying for that person, truly, with a loving heart towards him/her

We will have our good and bad times, days when we are better at this than other days, but let's try.


© Debra J.M. Smith