Did Pat Robertson Really Play Down Adultery 
Let's look at this in context.  

Before hearing this Pat Robertson story in context, I too thought the reports sounded terrible. --But now that I have heard it in context, I feel differently.  

In context: The woman who wrote in said she and her husband had been going to counseling and that she has been trying to forgive him. The indication is that the husband is sorry for what he did in the past and trying to make things right with his wife, but that she cannot forgive him or trust him. This is not a man who has chosen the life of sin and continued in his sin. It is a man who messed up and is sorry.

Robertson is pointing out something that God remembers about all Christians, that our frame is but dust. Yes, the woman's husband is a man, just a man, made of dust; he too can be tempted. And yes, there is a lot of temptation out there. God tells us that Satan is a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. We realize this with ourselves and with our children; why not realize this with our husbands too?

I would like to think that Robertson's suggestion that she keep a home so nice that he would not want to wonder, is logical advice, not advice that takes blame for a husband's sin off of the husband. But advice that gives the wife some power over the situation. It is true that if a person has an awful home life (male or female), he/she could be weaker when it comes to the temptation to cheat. Also scripture does show that if a couple gives themselves to each other regularly, that they are both less likely to wonder and get it somewhere else. And yes, that is part of a good home life.

As for his advice for her to think about the husband's positive traits and not his past adultery, I believe he was answering her question about how she can forgive him. And scripture does say "Love covers a multitude." So if she looks at how he loves her and remembers what made her fall in love with him, she will find it easier to forgive him. --Remember, the woman wanted to forgive her husband. She was asking for help to be able to forgive him

Though I would have worded it better and shown her scripture to support such advice and I certainly would have pointed out that her husband is who is ultimately at fault for his own sin and technically shares in the responsibility for her actions as a wife (this is because he is the head of her, not the other way around, and he should be cleansing her with the word daily, which would mold her into being the wife that would be all that he needs at home), as her husband's help-meet in life, she has responsibilities to do her best, even if he drops the ball.

Those are my thoughts on this. --And no, I am not a follower of Pat Robertson. I know very little about the man.

Debra J.M. Smith 05-17-13


 Debra J.M. Smith